Does it seem like you can’t tell if you are coming or going? That things are changing so rapidly in your world and you just want it to slow down?
The whirl wind of life can bring about some major life changes that are just too much to handle. They leave you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, worried, or depressed.
To go through life without experiencing change would be impossible. Many of these changes happen unplanned such as financial burdens, sudden loss of a job or loved one, a recent medical diagnosis, or having to relocate.
Even the exciting moments in life can sometimes be seen as stressful. You’ve always dreamt of this day whether it’s your high school graduation, college graduation, getting your first job, getting married, buying a home or having a baby. Whatever that dream scenario was or is can quickly change to what feels almost like a nightmare.
Trying to manage all the anticipated and unanticipated parts of this transition causes you to become irritable and stressed out. The uncertainty of what will happen next leaving you nervous and uneasy. Feeling a sense of panic as you tread lightly towards the next step in life. Fearful that at any moment things could go horribly wrong while pursuing your next adventure.
Downright terrifying at times!
And you’re doing it all alone!
So overwhelmed and worried you’re either indecisive or start to make impulsive decisions, which leave you feeling doubtful that you even know what you are doing. Things start to feel out of control and unbearable. Everyone just reassures you that everybody feels like this in your situation, but seriously how do they really know. Right?
You just wish you could fast forward and wake up tomorrow living in the new scenario. Be done with the awkwardness of transitioning. Wishing to leave the uncertainty behind you and move forward with confidence.
But, that just isn’t your reality. Instead you are plagued with racing thoughts and a strong desire to control as much as you can. You keep grasping onto anything you possibly can to manage the chaotic feeling that surround you. Fearing that this will all fall apart and then you will not have a clue of what to do.
Transitions are hard!
It’s as if they highjack your life while you are going through them. Exhausting you physically, mentally, and spiritually. And then when you finally overcome them they just disappear like they were never a thing. But they were there and they were real.
Typically, when you finally get to the other side of that time period in your life you are left feeling numb and like a truck literally ran into you. All the emotional burden you carried during the transition collapses within you. You feel sad in a way, even though you think you should be happy because you got through it.
No one should have to go through that alone!
Mindful Moments, LLC is here to both guide and support you through this challenging time. We are here for the moments you just want to give up that dream scenario. And we will be here during those times you are left in disbelief and tragedy when the nightmare has come true. Let us have your back as you push through to the next chapter of your life.
Imagine not having to carry the burden of this time solely on your own. You are able to lean on someone who will not judge your decisions or feelings about the process. You can openly and honestly express how you feel along each step of the way. So, when you think this was a big mistake and that you should just take off and elope you will not hear the gasps of your family. Instead comforted by the kind words of your therapist, who tells you it’s not easy planning such an event, but hey eloping is always an option.
You will have someone to talk you back into your rational thinking when the only way out seems to run away or disappear somehow. You feel less chaotic and are able to go with the flow. Minor hiccups in your plans will actually feel like minor hiccups, as opposed to the world ending crisis it did before therapy.
You’re probably thinking but “I’m not depressed, I don’t need therapy.”
And you are probably right about one thing. You may not be depressed, but therapy is not just for those with depression, anxiety or other diagnosable mental illnesses. Counseling’s primary objective is to help promote and maintain change. Aren’t major life transitions all about change?
Admitting that you go to therapy used to be viewed as a shameful and taboo topic. Nowadays most people have attended counseling at least once in their life. And they come to therapy for a variety of reasons, most often dealing with life altering moments. So, while you may not need therapy you could in fact benefit significantly from its affects.
You won’t have to lie down on a couch and talk endlessly about your father, unless you want to. Instead, learn new ways of handling stress and using these skills in your daily life to help ease the transition you are currently going through. Find new perspectives to old problems and develop new solutions.