Do you find yourself worrying what other people think of you? Do you fear that they are judging you? Do social situations make you feel anxious and insecure? To the point you find yourself lost in your own thoughts and hiding out at the snack table or in the corner sipping your drink observing everyone else.
Do you catch a glimpse of yourself in a mirror and instantly start bashing every flaw you possess? Staring at your hair wondering why it doesn’t have more volume and look luscious. Pulling at your shirt so it’s no longer hugging your stomach. You say to yourself “Ugh, I look awful. Monday I need to get back on that diet and start going to the gym again.”
A friend asks you to go to the beach with them, “I can’t go to the beach. I’d be caught dead in a bathing suit.” When you decline she begs you to join her. Too nervous to upset her you say yes even though you are still worried of what people will say once they see you in a bathing suit.
You stay quiet at work and try not to draw any attention to yourself. At least once a week you question how you even got your job. Your boss asks you to take on a project that’s due Friday, “I’ll never get that done. He’s nuts to think I can get this stuff done. I don’t even know what I am doing”
You find yourself looking deep into your computer screen. Not sure where to even start. This doesn’t surprise you. You can never make a decision and when you do it seems to always be the wrong decision. You can’t even decide where to have dinner most of the time without doubting if something else would be a better choice.
Friday comes around and you are still working at 4:55pm because you have done and re-done this project three times because it just doesn’t seem to be good enough to present to your boss. You finally hand the project in to your boss via email at 7pm. Your boss emails you back and asks to meet with you Monday. You become filled with dread and think to yourself “I’m probably getting fired because this came out so badly.”
Your weekend is now full of fear and anxiety about what could happen on Monday when you get back to work.
When Monday rolls around your boss says you did a great job on the project, but next time to manage your time more effectively. You leave his office harping on how your boss doesn’t think you use your time wisely and are bad at your job.
Your head is full of self-doubt and negative thinking. You feel inadequate, insecure, and sad. Nothing seems to work out the way you want it to. People take advantage of your kind heart and expect you to be this perfect person.
It’s so hard to get someone to understand how you feel. It’s not that life is horrible, but it just doesn’t feel like you want it to. Each day feels kind of blah. Most days you feel blah. Not happy, but not miserable. You just wish it would feel better! You wish you would feel better!
You deserve to feel better!
Everyone deserves to feel confident and secure in themselves.
You deserve to feel confident in decision making, in social situations, and in your abilities!
Let us help you discover your confidence by being brave enough to change behaviors and unhelpful thinking!
Imagine having the words to assert yourself, speaking up for yourself and setting boundaries with others. No longer feel taken for granted or used by family, friends, or co-workers. Imagine saying no without feeling guilty or worried of hurting someone else’s feelings. Imagine feeling less hurt by other people.
Imagine being your best self and caring for yourself in a way that promotes you to be the amazing individual you are deep down inside. Imagine letting that person out freely and with pride.
Imagine having the skills to help improve your self-esteem, self-confidence, and identity. Imagine looking in the mirror without judgement, walking into a party confident, meeting with your boss without fear. Imagine the chatter in your head that tells you, you aren’t good enough and criticizes your every move disappeared. Use positive self-talk to promote healthy and helpful behaviors in yourself.
You’re probably wondering how do I improve my self-esteem?
How does therapy help me feel better about me?
A variety of counseling skills can help change stinking thinking patterns which trigger negative self-images and beliefs about you. Learning to change thought patterns and promote healthier and kinder thoughts increases one’s sense of pride in themselves.
Learn to stop comparing yourself to others and judging your every move. By learning the art of being more mindful, you not only learn to remain in the present moment, which decreases worry, but mindfulness teaches you the beauty of acceptance without judgment. Find yourself accepting yourself, your reality, and others without the harsh thoughts that follow your current thoughts.
Once you have changed the cognitive symptoms of low self-esteem you will find yourself willing and open to trying new activities or pursuing the one’s you already love, but have always held back on doing. With a higher self-esteem you will start allowing yourself to live the life you desire and deserve.